So most of my readers are currently fasting (abstaining from food, drink etc from dawn until dusk) and this is by no means an easy feat. Generally, not eating leaves most people I know feeling rather ‘crabby’ to say the least. And controlling your anger is just another aspect of the ‘fast’.
While fasting I have done some rather suspect things… but I blame this on the fact that my brain is working at half power. It’s just little things that make u realise the impact of not being able to eat regular meals. I often forget to indicate when turning while I drive… and this only happens while fasting. I don’t simply smile as much as I normally do with the cashiers, pedestrians and the people in my neighbourhood. And I found that the smiling decreases the further into the day I get. The other day, while reading something from a bottle out aloud, I actually invented my own word!? The sad part was that it took me a few seconds to realise what I had just said. And that it made no sense whatsoever. I used the word ‘nurrifying’ and looked up to see 2 people looking at me rather confused. I then realised what I did n corrected myself, “I meant nourishing” yes, the fast definitely does get me now and then! My 5 year old said to me recently: ” So mummy…when you’re fasting, u have to nap everyday right?!” Yes Yes! I’m guilty!! I do put on a movie for them so that I can have “a little lie down”…just for a little while 🙂
Now like I mentioned fasting is a rather difficult task…. but fasting with a toddler or baby is always just a little bit more difficult.
There are certain things I’ve been doing for years as a mother that I’m quite sure a lot of other mums can relate to. For e.g. every sehri when I awake, I would always wedge a pillow next to my baba, in the hope that he doesn’t realise I’m not in bed, for fear that he wakes up thinking it’s time to play and talk n not go back to sleep. We would also take turns at sehri while they were babies. I’d eat first, come back to bed while my husband ate. So we’re having sehri together after quite some time. The same applied to praying… as it’s impossible for both parents to be ‘unavailable ‘ for entertainment purposes! 😉
Iftar (time at which your fast is broken) has also become quite challenging. We have now imposed the ‘no talking’ rule at Iftar time in the hope that we can have a somewhat peaceful Iftar. I probably should add that we are failing quite miserably, considering the chatterbox we have. He continues making odd sounds and when reminded of the no talking rule, smugly replies “but I’m not talking!” This rule has now been amended to the ‘NO talking… making sounds…jumping around…running around the table… chasing each other… going under the table or banging cutlery at Iftar time rule. ‘Basically they aren’t allowed to move.
The other rule I have had to add is that ‘ ALL CHILDREN MUST GO TO THE TOILET BEFORE I AM SEATED!!’
This was a necessity due to the fact that it seems both my kids’ bladders n tummies seem to be in sync with the time I place my first piece of kajoor/date into my mouth. As soon as the Azaan (call to prayer) is heard, and the date touches my mouth I am simultaneously summoned. And most of u can relate: “MUMMY….. I’m done! You can come wash me!! ”
Thankfully, this rule is proving to be more effective.
Keeping up with the Kardashians is nothing. Keeping up with your toddler in Ramadaan, now that’s a reality show!! And I seem to be living it!!
Well we have survived thus far…. so it seems maybe I’m not doing such a bad job this year 😉 although I have had 5yrs worth of training. So to all the new mums, hang in there…. and remember… this too shall pass … I’m not sure exactly when…or how…. and frankly it doesn’t seem to be anytime soon….. But that’s what I’ve been told….. 😉